Seeking control is not the solution to the human condition. It’s the problem.
Fear happens when you feel out of control. So how do you overcome fear? The logical answer may be to seek more control over every little detail of life, micromanaging until there is nothing left to fear. But this “control” is an illusion, and all it takes is one unexpected turn to feel afraid and out of control all over again.
The solution? Be honest about your lack of control and lean in to the grace of “withness” through prayer. Prayer is simply being with God, sharing your unfiltered thoughts with him. If you want to overcome fear and control, you can’t do it alone; you must learn the practice of “withness”.